Friend or Foe?

True Story!!!

I was talking to a friend last night and he asked me what I am doing for New Years this year. And for a brief moment I traveled back to New Years eve 2009.

 My best friend (we have known each other since 2003) Tibby and I had gone shopping for killer outfits because we were going out on New Years for the 1st time in our lives. We were so excited and ready to have a great time. Our New Years resolution was to go out at least one a month together. With our lives always doing the right thing we wanted to try something new. We didn't want to go crazy and lead wild lives but we wanted to experience our early twenties because we never did when we were in our early 20s. So that night we went to a club and we had the best time. We went to this same club every Saturday night. We were having the time of our lives. We became friends with the bar-tenders and DJ's It was just the best time in our lives. Eventually two of the DJ's became our good friends, John & Pat (who are also a couple). We would go out to eat after the club closed and we started going to other places where John DJ'ed.

By this time Tibby started sleeping with John. The longer Tibby and Johns "relationship" lasted the more I felt for Pat. She is a really nice person, all-be-it annoying, she doesn't deserve a donkey of a man like John who would cheat on her. John is a compulsive cheater. He's been married three times (cheated on all of them). Divorced #3 to continue a relationship with Pat. Do you understand how upset I could be for my "best" friend Tibby and for Pat. I had another fainting episode and ended up in the hospital. I had stopped taking my medications so I could go out and drink.


(In a way it was my rebellion against my illness. I was tired of being sick. I was gonna die I may as well enjoy myself in the end. I now realize I only hurt myself and the people who care about me. Anyway back to my flashback.)

So I stopped hanging out with them. Tibby still came over or we'd go to the movies. She was still hanging out with John and Pat. They were always together not only at the club but making dinner at Johns place, partying, going to concerts... It's just gross. August 1st Tibby and I went to dinner I told her she had one month to clean up her poop and come clean to Pat. So three weeks later Tibby tells me she is no longer sleeping with John and John has taken a break from Pat. He needs to be "alone". Thing that irked me was this was a secret 'time out' for Pat and John. They didn't want anyone to know about it including Tibby but John told her anyway. My problem is I had a feeling Tibby was lying to me. I didn't believe this oh-so-convenient "time out" they were having.  In early September I was going out with my friends; on the way to Ivy Rooftop I asked to stop at the club where John & Pat worked. As we got out of the car who did we see. John & Pat getting out of his car holding hands and kissing. They said hi and we all went inside. A little while later I saw Pat alone and I came clean. I told her the whole truth & nothing but the truth. I told her everything I knew about John and Tibby. She told me she had a feeling they were sleeping together but needed confirmation of what was going on. She was upset I didn't tell her sooner (which is understandable).

Now Tibby calls me a trader and a vindictive bitch because I told Pat the truth. She said I am not a true friend and she no longer wants to speak to me. It hurts me to think she would actually believe those to be the reasons for me to be honest. My conscience was killing me; it has been a year since all this started and I couldn't take it any more. Tibby deserves a better person as does Pat. After the horrible phone call Tibby and I had she made me feel like I was the worst person in the world. Like I was the evil friend sleeping around. Part of me feels I did the right thing and that Pat needed to know the truth. But after all the drama apparently Pat and John are still together.

So should I have kept quiet?

Stayed out of the situation?

I don't know but if I am going to be me in this world then I feel I did what was right according to me!

So what I'm I doing this year for New Years? Not getting into anymore drama!!! 

(Names have been changed in this post)